Monday of last week I left
the office to pick up Ayden from school. During this period of time I was
feeling ill, suffering from a headache that wouldn’t quit, nausea, and
generally just fatigued. After arriving home I grabbed a few meds and laid down
for a bit in hopes of feeling better. Sure enough, after the meds kicked in and
a little rest, I was back on the road to recovery.
This instance of me being
down even for this short period of time had a major effect on the normal operations
of the Dickerson household. While I was lying down, Kensi had the full load.
Our normal evening is to “divide & conquer,” which would include,
but not limited to the following: One of us will be found helping Ayden with
homework while the other prepares dinner, or doing some other necessary chore;
One of us tends to the needs of Emily while the other tends to the Jaxon. On a
normal evening, we cook together, clean together, etc. However when one of us
is down, the other has to take on the complete load of tasks.
I always think of what
Solomon said in Ecclesiastes 4:9-12: “Two are better than one, because they
have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will lift up his
companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, for he has no one to help
him up. Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm; But how can one
be warm alone? Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him.
And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”
Although the principles
that Solomon mentions here are certainly applicable to the marital
relationship, the principles also extend beyond that relationship. Throughout
the scriptures God emphasizes the importance and significance of companionship
and relationships. We see that in the very beginning when God made man and saw
that it was not good for man to be alone, so He created Adam a “help meet”
(Gen. 2:18-24). Let me make a quick note here that it doesn’t say that “there
was not a servant to every whim of man.” 😉
When the Lord instituted
the church, He designed the church to be a body of believers who would help
each other. In Acts 2, we read about those who heard the Gospel preached and
upon believing that powerful word, responded to it, repenting of their sins and
were baptized for the remission of their sins (Acts 2:37-41). What followed was
a people, a community of believers, united in a common purpose and goal. The
scripture records that they “continued steadfastly” (42), they had “all
things common, sharing to those who had need” (44,45), and they “continued
daily with one accord” (46). We see this church grow because they
effectually worked together.
Notice what Paul said in
Ephesians 4:15,16: “But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in
all things, which is the head, even Christ: From whom the whole body fitly
joined together and compacted by that which every joint supplieth, according to
the effectual working in the measure of every part, maketh increase of the body
unto the edifying of itself in love.” Paul told the Corinthian brethren the
importance and significance of the one body in 1 Corinthians 12 illustrating
his point with that of the physical body.
When one member of our physical
body does not do its part, then the rest of the body feels the ill-effects.
Paul made the point that all of the members of the one body are diverse, having
different functions/abilities and that all are important to it functioning
effectually. If you don’t believe that the body suffers when one member of the
body suffers, go stub your toe into a piece of furniture. You will quickly
realize just how necessary your toe is to walk. 😉
God designed us so to be
dependent, not only first and foremost on Him, but also on one another. All are
necessary and should not attempt to become independent from each other, for
such is not God’s design.
We can understand the
importance of everyone doing their part/share in the secular work area. I
understand that, just as I do when Kensi is “down and out.” The work
load is heavier, because I don’t have another to share the load. Spiritually it
is no different. We need each other to help labor the Master in His vineyard
(cf. Matt. 9:37,38). We need each other for encouragement to lift each other up
(cf. 1 Thess. 5:11; Heb. 3:13). I thought of those times I have been sick or
when Kensi has been sick. Realizing the physical illness and weakness that the
one is burdened with, the other continues pressing along, being the strength of
our house while the strong one brings medicine and nourishment to help bring the
other back to health. What both of us know ever so well, is that we need each
other healthy, so we can both do our part/share to the effectual working of our
I think of the day Kensi
and I married, we became ONE. Our burdens were now halved since when we share
them, we divide the load. This only happens when we are both doing our part.
The same thought is applied by the apostle Paul regarding the church (cf. Gal.
6:2; 1 Thess. 5:14).
In reading Ephesians
4:11-16, one will find that we all have a role in the Lord’s church, each has
an important purpose, and each role has important and significant results.
If we are going to be effective
today, to grow and go as the Lord so desires (as His body), then we will all be
unified in our efforts, “by what EVERY joint supplies” (Eph. 4:16).
To end this article, the
imagery I leave you with is this: A single strand from a rope will break under
pressure. However, when each strand is intertwined, it becomes strong and
certainly not easily broken. May our lives be intertwined together for the
Lord’s cause and purpose, as His word “effectually works in [us] that
believe” (1 Thess. 2:13), with the Lord “working in us both to will and
to do of His good pleasure” (Phil. 2:13).
Something to think about. Have a great week! – DJ